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Leadership: Start with Subtraction

This is the fourth and final article in a series on leadership based on a set of commandments we return to and refer to at Trinity, the parish I serve. You may catch up on past articles in the archive at sanpedrotoday.com. You may notice that all nine commandments were not covered. Four of them are more specific to church leadership and may not be as interesting to the readership of this magazine. If you are interested in the whole set, please don’t hesitate to contact me at pastor@trinitysanpedro.org.

The call to lead is tough. Making decisions will draw detractors. Bringing reform will not be popular with those who helped create, or have an investment in, the status quo. Leaning into a difficult discussion instead of living in denial takes chutzpah. So why lead? Your family (kids’ sports team, business, neighborhood council, city, quilting group, confirmation class, the list goes on and on) needs someone to lead. Proverbs 29.18 says, “Where there is no vision [leadership], the people cast off restraint.”

Good leadership can foment unity to win wars, go to the moon and back, and convince people to make unlikely sacrifices for the greater good. From the basic unit of the family to a nation, without a leader to communicate vision, everyone goes their own way. Everybody just goes into their own room to watch their own show, because we can’t agree on who we are (identity) or what we are doing (mission).

The leader is responsible to detect and correct identity theft and mission creep. Identity theft is the inability to answer the questions, “Who are we?” Mission creep is the inability to answer, “What are we called to do?” Identity theft is exacerbated by the pressure to be everything, and mission creep is made worse by the pressure to do everything. When identity theft or mission creep is detected, the first corrective measure is weeding.

Have you ever planted mint? Looks harmless. Smells great. Helps digestion. Makes a great garnish. Mint should come with a warning label: Will take over your whole yard! Take my word, give mint boundaries. Like, put it in a pot, away from any other soil. At first, I felt like a real champion gardener when I saw how great my mint was doing. Then I thought, “I wonder if I need to prune that back?” Then, “Holy cow, that’s enough mint for all the mojitos the Green Onion makes in a year!” When my rhubarb was in danger of losing its life to the mint, I took drastic action. Weed the mint. I pulled it all out. Smelled like a gum factory. I gave bushels of mint to my backyard chickens and have sworn off mint ever since.

Leadership Commandment 8: We weed today. We stop being who we are not called to be. We stop doing what we are not called to do. We don’t let the sun go down on our anger (Ephesians 4.26). We don’t allow noxious feelings to spread. We don’t give the devil a foothold by planting invasive offense in our garden (2 Corinthians 2.10). We are quick to address and forgive. Bitter unforgiveness is a million times more destructive than mint. When we don’t weed today, tomorrow is worse. The difficult discussion is not less necessary, nor is it less difficult tomorrow.

This New Year, take a good look at your metaphorical garden. What is crowding out health and growth? Is there something that is not essential to your core identity or mission that can be weeded out? Many people resolve to add stuff to their lives at the New Year. Gym memberships, fad diets, and other well-intentioned additions. Maybe it would be healthier to start with subtraction this year instead of addition. Weed instead of plant?

May the Lord crown your year with abundance (from Psalm 65).

Nathan Hoff is the Pastor at Trinity Lutheran Church in San Pedro. Follow his blog at trinitypastor.blogspot.com.

Teenage Advice for Your Best Year Ever

I started working out when I was a sophomore in high school. Prior to that, I spent most of my days watching TV and eating fast food. Had I kept on the road I was on, I was headed towards heart disease and diabetes (both prevalent in my family).

It changed my life. It changed how I looked at life.

Your life has certain moments where things can swing one way or another. What you choose to do today can change the entire trajectory of your life.

One of the best things you can do is recognize those moments and decide to do something your future self will thank you for. Something that will change the direction of your life when the current one has you headed towards a dangerous outcome.

Lou Mardesich, a San Pedro native and principal at Harry Bridges Span School in Wilmington, noticed a disturbing trend. Many children at his school were overweight, obese, and had poor eating habits. Largely the result of socio-economic forces outside of their control, these kids were headed towards many health problems that were completely preventable.

So, one day he had a crazy idea, start a CrossFit program at his middle school. After lots of planning and securing the funding, he launched the program with this objective: to bring students struggling with childhood obesity, often intimidated by exercise, into a fitness program that will allow them to overcome the health and developmental issues that arise from inactivity.

That was six years ago. As a result of the effort to make a healthier school, this year, Harry Bridges received a Silver status recognizing them as one of America’s healthiest schools by Alliance for Healthier Generations, a national organization that helps bring wellness initiatives to schools.

He recently sent me a letter from a student named Heizel asking to be admitted in the CrossFit class. I read it and realized that often kids see things more clearly than adults do. They get it. So, as you approach the New Year, read this letter and replace CrossFit with any challenge you feel compelled to take on. The thing that nags at you but you’re afraid to try.

Heisel’s letter read: Ever since I started school I heard about CrossFit and how it helps you lose weight and all these good things about it.

When they lift weights, they are gaining muscle and that makes me

feel stronger knowing that I will be able to work out without an excuse to be lazy. I always tell myself I’m going to work out, but I never do because I’m too lazy. But CrossFit won’t allow me to be lazy.

Many of my friends tell me, “Heisel, don’t join. It’s so hard. You’re gonna die.” But from my point of view, I think, “Isn’t that the point?” CrossFit is not going to be easy and I know that, but that’s why I want to join, to see how far my limits are and extend [them].

I want to push myself to be a better, healthier version of me, and no matter how many things I hear about me “dying,” I’m still willing [to try], because how would I know if I don’t like it if I’ve never tried it? I want to prove, not just to myself, but to everyone that I’m not lazy.

I always look at my favorite quote, “Do not let your body define your soul, let your soul define your body.” You can be so insecure about your looks, but you have to show people you’re strong mentally and physically.

So, I want to keep going. I want to lose weight, and I want to become a healthier person. Not for anyone, but for myself. I want to feel proud of the body I am in, and I want to feel accomplished, to feel better about myself.

I couldn’t have said it better. In 2019, become a healthier person, find and extend your limits, try something new, and show others you’re strong physically and mentally. And when others doubt, don’t listen to the noise. You’ll never know what you’re capable of unless you have the courage to find out.

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‘Til Death Do Us Part

There’s a famous photo of the ceremonial marriage of San Pedro and Los Angeles, taken at the Harbor Day Celebration on July 4, 1908, an event sponsored by pro-consolidation interests. In the photo, Miss Pearl Pierson, sporting all white and a sweet dimple, plays the part of the young, virginal San Pedro, full of potential. Next to her stands L.A. Mayor Arthur Harper, a man who looks like he could be Miss Pierson’s least favorite grandfather. The infamously corrupt Harper would resign from office nine months later amid recall efforts and poor Pearl would die in her parents’ home in less than ten years’ time. I think about this photo often because a marriage is the best way to describe the relationship between L.A. and San Pedro. There was a consolidation of assets, L.A. got to make all the decisions, San Pedro, being the modern young woman that she was, decided to keep her name and she’s fantasized about divorce ever since.

San Pedrans have never forgotten that we were once our own city. In fact, wishing that we could be independent, again, is a bit of a rite of passage for us. SPExit will always be that white whale we chase, but there’s a much less complicated way to get in touch with our strong independent roots: visiting the L.A. City archives.

The L.A. City archives are located on the roof of the infamous “Piper Tech” building in Downtown Los Angeles, also home of the LAPD helicopter squadron and crime lab. The entrance is a little non-descript. If there wasn’t a sign over a filthy roll-up door that read City Records Center and Archives, you’d have no idea of the informational riches being housed there. Inside is a sleepy looking room of long wooden tables and stacked file boxes awaiting their researchers. I’m greeted by city archivist Michael Holland. It was Michael who had told me that the old San Pedro city records were in the city archives. Like any good spouse, the City of L.A. took possession of all the San Pedro city records after the consolidation. I’ve wanted to visit ever since.

Before making the trip up to Downtown L.A., I had searched through the online index of available materials and chose several boxes from the San Pedro Municipal Records collection, specifically the city ordinances. When Michael wheeled the stack of boxes to my table, the history moths in my stomach started to flutter. It was as if I was being given boxes of personal effects from a long-lost ancestor and that looking at them would somehow help me understand myself a little more.

All the boxes contained large ledger books wrapped in archival paper. Some of the ledgers contained typed transcripts of minutes, some had typed copies of deed transfers. I wasn’t looking for anything in particular, this was more of a reconnaissance mission. I just wanted to acquaint myself with the materials. One volume was filled with big round script, it was the clerk’s book full of handwritten ordinances, the very first happening on March 5, 1888, establishing the meetings of the city trustees to take place every Tuesday in Judge Weeks’ courtroom on Front Street at 7:30 p.m.

The book of published ordinances included those that changed the name of West Street to Pacific Avenue and the 1903 ordinance that designated Beacon and First Streets as the zero point, where all addresses would be designated north, south, east and west of. Beyond those, most ordinances had to do with grading the streets. That means that the city of San Pedro spent its entire life making the streets more navigable and really just laying the foundation for the town we know, today.

Probably the most interesting volume was the old Harbor View Cemetery ledger. This old book contained a handwritten account of nearly every plot sale and burial at the small cemetery from 1887 to 1915, with a huge gap in 1909 right after consolidation. Unfortunately, the baby that I had been looking for in a previous article was buried some time during the gap in the records. I made sure to take a picture of each page for future reference.

After I finished looking through all of the boxes, I chatted with Michael about the city of San Pedro and consolidation. In the conversation, the question of vote records came up and Michael said he could show me the giant ledger that contained the special election for the consolidation vote. I nearly jumped out of my seat at the mention. When he brings out a book that, when opened, is the size of a small card table, and opens it to the vote record, I am awe-struck.

In front of me is a handwritten tally of all the votes for and against consolidation in August of 1909. The tallies for the L.A. precincts take up most of the page, only one precinct has a double digit no vote. The Wilmington and San Pedro votes are dwarfed by comparison. It was so strange that I was staring one of the most consequential records in San Pedro history, right in the face. It was the marriage certificate of San Pedro and Los Angeles.

Ring Season

With nine games in the books for the 2018 season, San Pedro High School football was mired in a four-game losing streak with a 3-6 overall record, wondering how they would turn their season around. A month and five straight victories later, the Pirates are feeling like they’re on top of the world.

It wasn’t easy, but sixth-seeded San Pedro thwarted a late charge by top-seeded Dorsey of Los Angeles and won 22-20, capturing the CIF-Los Angeles City Section Division 1 championship in front of an estimated 4,500 fans at El Camino College Murdock Stadium on Saturday, November 24. This crowning moment capped off a wild season that many wouldn’t believe would end in glorious fashion.

At least on this night, San Pedro (8-6 overall) will not have to share this championship with anyone else, like the Pirates did in 2008 at the Los Angeles Memorial Coliseum. Dorsey (8-6) was carrying an eight-game winning streak into the title tilt and carried that confidence into their opening possession of the game after forcing a San Pedro punt. On just the Dons’ third play from scrimmage, senior running back, Keeshawn Johnson, broke free for an electrifying 90-yard touchdown run to put Dorsey up 6-0 midway through the first quarter, as the Pirates stopped the ensuing two-point conversion.

Senior quarterback, Justin Bernal, would hook up with senior wide receiver, Cam Thomas, for a 41-yard first down to put the Pirates in the red zone before junior WR/DB/K, Andres Srsen, nailed a 25-yard field goal late in the first quarter to cut Dorsey’s lead to 6-3, which would remain that way at quarter’s end.

After a big pass play on a wide receiver reverse, the Dons would strike again with a short three-yard touchdown run and ensuing two-point conversion run from sophomore Michael Sanford, for a 14-3 advantage.

From there, San Pedro was awoken, and came up big on two plays to turn the game around in their favor. On San Pedro’s ensuing offensive drive, a 19-yard first down pass from Bernal to Srsen would extend the drive to their own 40-yard line, then a personal foul on Dorsey put the Pirates past midfield. Three plays later, junior running back, Joshua Ward, would drive his way into Pirate football lore with one of the greatest runs ever.

After taking the handoff from Bernal, Ward appeared to have been stopped behind the line of scrimmage, then after breaking for a couple of yards, he would shed off three more Dorsey would-be tacklers before escaping and running for a 29-yard touchdown with only eight minutes left in the second quarter for a 14-10 Dons lead.

However, the Pirates weren’t done.

A crucial holding penalty on Dorsey wiped out a first down run, then two plays later, San Pedro’s defense finally got a big break when the next pass was read perfectly by sophomore defensive back Joshua Johnson, who jumped the route and intercepted it, returning it 27 yards for an easy touchdown to put San Pedro ahead with 6:30 remaining in the second quarter.

San Pedro would maintain a 16-14 halftime lead until the eight-minute mark in the fourth quarter. After Dorsey was stopped on fourth down after an attempted fake punt, three straight bruising runs of 14 yards from junior Alexander Prado, a ten-yard run by Ward, and then Ward again for a two-yard touchdown put San Pedro ahead 22-14 with 8:13 to play.

The two CIF-LACS powers would trade punts, but the Dons somehow drove down field to score one more time with Sanford on a two-yard touchdown run, and it was 22-20 with 1:14 to play. There was no question Dorsey would go for a potential game-tying two-point conversion, but the Dons were flagged for a five-yard delay of game penalty.

The Dons were forced to throw for two and went for a halfback option pass, but it fell incomplete, much to the relief of the Pirates.

Once junior TE/DL Matthew McCabe recovered the ensuing onside kick followed by two kneel downs by Bernal, San Pedro could finally breathe again and celebrate their hard-earned crown.

During San Pedro’s four-game losing streak towards the end of the regular season, the offense struggled to put points on the board after blowing a 17-0 halftime lead in a Marine League opening 27-24 loss to Carson on September 28. From there, the Pirates were routed in three straight defeats to CIF-LACS Open Division champion Narbonne, Harbor Area neighbor Banning, and CIF-Southern Section Division 3 champion Sierra Canyon.

Playing those teams definitely prepared the Pirates for the long run, as they would finish the year with their only Marine League victory over Gardena, followed by three impressive playoff wins over Granada Hills Charter, Reseda and South Gate when the offense found its groove again and the defense was stingy when it mattered against a Dorsey team that was playing its third consecutive CIF-LACS Division 1 final.

San Pedro would avenge a 10-8 loss to the Dons in the 1995 CIF-LACS Division 4A final, which also ironically enough occurred at El Camino College and also ending an eight-game losing streak to the reigning Coliseum League champions.

San Pedro’s latest sports championship just comes 21 days after the girls volleyball team captured a CIF-LACS Division 1 crown.

It truly is “ring season” in Pirate Town.

Our Hidden Treasures

2019 brings new beginnings, new changes, and new perspectives. This New Year, we’re reminded to take a look around, and find value in our surroundings and local community. We asked San Pedro Today contributors and staff about their favorite “hidden treasures.” Some you might be familiar with, others may be new to you. Whatever the case, we hope you use 2019 to discover all that our town has to offer.


L.A. MARITIME MUSEUM’S COMMERCIAL FISHING EXHIBIT
If your family has roots in the commercial fishing industry (like mine), then do yourself a favor and pay a visit to the L.A. Maritime Museum’s exhibit. Not only is it fascinating, but you may even see a few familiar names and faces. Definitely a must- see and a great glimpse into the history of San Pedro.
– Caitlyn Trudnich, San Pedro Today associate editor

SAN PEDRO WORLD WAR II MEMORIAL
My hidden gem is, quite literally, hidden. It’s the San Pedro World War II Memorial stashed away in the farthest southwest corner of Green Hills Memorial Park. Unveiled at the park’s annual Memorial Day event in 2005, the massive granite monument was subsequently moved to be the centerpiece of a new development. It contains the names of 162 men from San Pedro who died in the war.
– Steve Marconi, columnist

ROSY SCENARIO
It’s the cutest little antique shop in Downtown San Pedro with amazing prices. I love seeing Rose, the shop owner, ride around town to all the garage and estate sales, transporting her finds back to the shop in her basket. Rose is such a great lady with an awesome eye. Don’t sleep on Rosy Scenario, it’s a treasure full of treasures!
– Angela Romero, San Pedro Heritage Museum

PECK PARK CANYON’S RAY PATRICIO TRAILS & REMNANTS OF THE OLD HERNANDEZ RANCH
As a kid, our grandma would give us carrots and sugar cubes
to feed the horses and visit with Mr. H. Years later, we all played flag football at Peck for Coach Patricio, who advocated ceaselessly for safe, healthy uses of the canyon. Then, my own kids played every sport imaginable at Peck, and Connie and I would race through the canyon to get to games on time! Today, it is a beautiful morning walk and respite from the City.
– Tim McOsker, CEO of AltaSea

GREEN GIRL FARMS, located on 14th Street, is open every Wednesday from 9–11 a.m. Master gardner, Lara Hughey, has a great selection of organic, locally grown produce. There is always something new to try. They are also open at the Corner Store on select Saturdays.

And… NAZELIE’S LEBANESE CAFÉ is my family’s go-to restaurant once a week. I phone in our order, which is usually three chicken kabob plates, no salad, with extra hummus. The shawarma is also exceptional and the staff is always friendly.
– Jennifer Marquez, columnist

THE VACATION-STYLE WOODEN CHAIRS LOOKING NEAR THE ENTRANCE TO THE CATALINA EXPRESS PARKING LOT under the Vincent Thomas Bridge. Great place to pray, ponder, or plan a get-away. Parking is free for just enough time. And A CUP OF COFFEE AND A WAFFLE AT THE NORWEGIAN CHURCH. The cheapest trip you can take to Europe. No passport needed. Open Tuesday through Sunday in the middle of the day.
– Pastor Nathan Hoff, Trinity Lutheran Church

THE PULL-UP RIG ON 10TH & BEACON STREETS
Lots of people don’t realize how big on fitness San Pedro locals are. There are several gyms and a vibrant fitness community, but even among us gym rats, few realize the best workouts in this town are free. There are beautiful strands for running, walking, and a free-to- all pull-up rig overlooking the waterfront.
– Ricky Magana, Heyday Elite Fitness

Grabbing a burger and a cold beer at WALKER’S CAFE, hidden across Point Fermin Park.
– Peter Hazdovac, realtor

The annual POLAR BEAR SWIM at Cabrillo Beach on New Year’s Day – one of my favorites! And the HAPPY ROLL at Bonello’s Pizza.
– Mike Harper, realtor

AltaSea: the Dream Becoming a Reality

Last year was momentous for AltaSea at the Port of Los Angeles, with milestone achievements that will shape future success in 2019 and for years to come. Our dream is that AltaSea and the work of its partners will be a catalyst for waterfront renovation, a jobs creator, and an economic development jump-start for the entire region.

But, for those who may not be familiar, a little background: AltaSea is a nonprofit, public benefit company that has leased 35 acres from the Port of Los Angeles at City Dock 1. The site includes the historic warehouses and former Westways Terminal at the bottom of 22nd Street, next to Warehouse 1 and the Port Pilot Station. It is a spectacular location on the Main Channel, close to the breakwater and Angel’s Gate lighthouse.

The vision of AltaSea is to develop a world-class campus of marine and ocean science, business innovation, and community education and engagement – all dedicated to discovery and the preservation of our ocean resources. The first phase of campus development is in three projects: (1) the adaptive reuse of Warehouses 58, 59, and 60 for businesses that are engaged in aquaculture (ocean farming) and blue tech (underwater robotics); (2) the renovation and improvement of Warehouse 57 for the Southern California Marine Institute (SCMI), a consortium of 23 universities, colleges, and institutes; and (3) new construction of an iconic engagement center, designed by the world renowned architectural firm, Gensler.

Work on AltaSea has already begun by activating the existing warehouses and wharf on the East Channel. Over the past twelve months, we have secured significant tenants to the site including Boeing (and its ocean exploration submarine, the Echo Voyager), Catalina Sea Ranch (ocean farmers), Blue Robotics (creators of small, ocean robots), and others. We have welcomed innovators and ocean researchers to our docks, such as Jet Propulsion Lab (JPL), National Geographic, and the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration (NOAA). In addition, AltaSea has partnered with the Ocean Exploration Trust, Cabrillo Marine Aquarium, the Boys and Girls Clubs of the Los Angeles Harbor, the L.A. Maritime Institute, and other educators at all levels of study.

The bold vision of an AltaSea campus is coming to life, where the best of business, science, and education come together to protect the oceans for future generations, while accelerating our economy, and inspiring the next generation of scientists.

Last August, we reached a significant funding milestone that allowed AltaSea to take possession of a large portion of the site and proceed to the first project in phase one – the renovation of our three historic warehouses, home to the aquaculture and blue tech business clusters.

Our 180,000-square-foot warehouse complex will be called the Center of Innovation. With this first project, AltaSea will create jobs in new ocean industries, and develop a pipeline to better careers for students in the Los Angeles and Long Beach Harbor communities. These are the “Blue Economy” jobs that will provide opportunity and prosperity to future generations.

Later this year, AltaSea will release bid documents and award construction contracts for the Center of Innovation. Work will take a little less than a year, after which the entire space will be available for tenants, jobs, and community education and engagement experiences.

All this progress shows that AltaSea has advanced from a wonderfully audacious idea into a tangible reality. But none of it would be possible without the support of our friends, benefactors, and this community. Significant support has come from the City family, most especially Mayor Eric Garcetti, the Port of Los Angeles, and Councilmember Joe Buscaino. The AltaSea team is grateful for the progress of 2018. Together we have come so far, and together we will complete the full vision of AltaSea.

Tim McOsker is the CEO of AltaSea at the Port of Los Angeles.

‘A Kinder, Gentler Nation’

The above is a quote from George H.W. Bush, whom we buried last month after a lifetime of public service to our country as a fighter pilot, congressman, U.N. ambassador, CIA director, vice president and, of course, president. He was a Republican president who believed in “serving some higher purpose than ourselves.” He rallied for “A Thousand Points of Light” as a call to service – to make this nation both kinder and gentler. He sent us to war in the Gulf, got our troops out immediately after the conflict was won and made the tough but correct call to raise taxes to pay for that war rather than blow up the deficit and/or take away public services for the poor.

Our current president is the antithesis of President #41 – an ignorant narcissist who doesn’t care about the poor, mocks public service, and increases the military budget by billions while at the same time providing tax cuts for the wealthiest and corporations. The result: our national deficit is increasing by trillions, which leads to talks about cutting Social Security and Medicare to make up the deficit. A kinder and gentler nation?

Cutting Social Security or Medicare benefits should never occur. First of all, I have been paying into both systems for 45 years – this isn’t an entitlement – these are programs I and tens of millions of Americans are entitled to because we paid for these delayed benefits throughout our lifetimes. As people live longer, the continuation of these resources is more important than ever – they will be the lifeline for so many Americans. A kinder and gentler nation takes Social Security and Medicare off the chopping block forever.

Another major social issue is our homeless. There is no silver bullet for homelessness, but there are ways to easily address the invisible homeless who live in cars or non-traditional housing. Temple Beth El planned to allow people living in their cars to utilize their parking lot for a safe place to park and sleep. The outcry from my Vista Del Oro neighbors was so loud and continual that the temple was forced to back down. Really? A kinder and gentler nation starts in our own backyard. I don’t understand the hate and fear that did not allow this simple act of kindness and service to prevail. This, at a time when our poverty rates and cost of housing continues to rise and more and more families are forced to live in their cars, garages, or 10 in a single bedroom apartment. Kinder and gentler?

One of our Club kids and his mom (they both work) live in their car and could have used that parking lot opportunity – they would be a threat to no one.

On a similar note, I’ve been informed that a large number of Harbor Community College students are living in their cars and are food deprived. I understand many have tried to park near the campus but are rousted by the authorities and must move on and/or get ticketed. Why can’t the college allow those students with I.D. to park in their gated lot at night and find funding to place a security guard there to monitor access? Cost would be about $50,000 annually to house maybe 50-100 homeless students each night.

This isn’t brain surgery, but we have to be willing to see the real face of homelessness and provide kinder and gentler options other than ticketing these homeless students and relegating them to the streets. Also, the school has a great culinary program – something tells me that with a little creative planning and minimal funding, you could also feed these students at a very low cost to them each morning.

We can be kinder and gentler in 2019.

Mike Lansing is the Executive Director of the Boys & Girls Clubs of the Los Angeles Harbor.

Tips from The Helicopter Daughter

My father has macular degeneration and is losing his vision. He has lived in the same house for more than 52 years. He never wants to move, he tells me. My mom passed away five years ago, so I help when I can. It is an hour away if there is no traffic. With my own family and career in social services, I offer care and support from a distance when I cannot get out there. He does not need a caretaker yet. I have found some solutions that have helped him and me too, so I worry less. Some of my ideas do not always fly with him, like an indoor camera with an intercom. Okay, so he wasn’t ready for me to see him in his living room every day, I get it. This is what is working for us:

Call Blocker for Landline: My brother bought a Sentry brand call blocker for my dad two years ago on Amazon. There are many varieties and brands now. My dad used to get at least five telemarketing calls a day. With the Sentry there are no more spam calls. The phone rings once and it is cut off then the number can be blocked. Everybody else, like me, can still call but it eliminates all the other annoying calls. There are no monthly fees for this device, it is a one-time purchase. He hasn’t had any telemarketing call for two years since he got this.

Large ‘No Solicitations’ Sign: I don’t like the idea of strangers knocking on my dad’s door. He is 85 years old, so I am protective. There has been a huge reduction of salespeople since we posted this sign on his front door. They sell these signs on Amazon and at Home Depot.

Shower Grab Bar: My husband bought a grab bar at Home Depot and put it in with a diamond drill bit. Some people bath less if they do not feel secure in the shower. He does not need a shower chair at this point. He is very happy with the shower bar and feels much more confident while bathing.

Meals On Wheels: My dad can’t prepare food due to his vision and has lost weight, so we signed up for Meals On Wheels. He pays a minimal fee to have two meals delivered on designated days. This was one of my ideas that he hated at first, but we eased into it. Now he loves it. He receives a hot meal, a drink, fruit and a cold sandwich for later.

Dial-A-Ride: I got my dad signed up for Dial-A-Ride in the city he lives in shortly after he quit driving. He looked pretty annoyed with me when we were registering and did not use the service for months. Then one day he decided to start using it to go out to lunch every week at his favorite restaurant as he used to when he drove. It costs 25-cents one way. My dad is a good tipper and it pays off, he gets exceptional service.

Free Talking Books: The Braille Institute provides a free talking machine and books designed for people with low vision or those who cannot hold a book. Books can be ordered online or by calling their library. They provide a free return envelope for the books. I also was able to get my dad a reading magnifying glass at no charge through the Braille Institute. For more information, visit brailleinstitute.org or call (800) 808-2555.

Free Phone through The California Telephone Access Program (CTAP): My dad was having trouble dialing his home phone, so I applied for a specialized phone from californiaphones.org. Somebody came to his house and trained him (and me) to use his new phone. Now he can feel for the button that dials me and others with one touch. Anybody in California who has difficulty using a standard telephone qualifies with a doctor’s note. They can be contacted at (800) 806-1191.

Ring Doorbell: I have had a Ring Doorbell and have found it very useful. I ordered one for my dad. I can see when a delivery is made at my dad’s house or somebody is on his porch. Sometimes I get on the intercom and pretend like I am in the other room. Nobody needs to know he is home alone at times. It is a one-time cost of approximately $100 and then $30 annually.

My dad also wears a medical alert button, and I have meals delivered to him through apps like Postmates and Uber Eats. There are many services and programs to assist seniors and caregivers. Looking for assistance and asking for help is the first step.

Jennifer Marquez can be reached at  jennifertmarquez@yahoo.com  and @jenntmqz on Twitter and Instagram.

Veterans Get Short Shrift in Holiday Confusion

It’s either a failure of our educational system or the fault of preening politicians who can’t say no to a photo op, but when did we begin confusing Veterans Day with Memorial Day?

These are two distinct holidays honoring two distinct groups of people. Memorial Day is the day set aside to remember the men and women of the armed forces who died in service to their country. Veterans Day is the day we salute all who have served, in war and peace.

I bring this up because of two events this past Veterans Day in which San Pedro’s Roger Gonzales was honored. Gonzales, who was killed during the Korean War, received much publicity when his remains were recovered and buried in Green Hills. He had a solemn and dignified military funeral, richly deserved after 68 years. The holiday for heroes like him is Memorial Day.

San Pedro is full of living veterans, Green Hills is full of dead ones, from WWII to Korea and Vietnam. It would have been much more appropriate for the Los Angeles City Council or the USS Iowa to honor any one of them.

Two come immediately to mind. One is Harold “Hal” Garvin, who died Sept. 20 at age 94. Garvin was a WWII veteran who survived 50 missions as a crew member of a B-24 Liberator with the 759th Bomb Squadron. A Gardena High graduate, he returned from the war and began a teaching career at Dana Junior High in 1948. Three years later he moved to San Pedro High, where he taught history for 10 years before joining the faculty at Harbor College. He taught history and political science from 1961 to 1978. In 1979, he was elected to the Los Angeles Community College Board of Trustees, where he served 12 years.

I first met Garvin at Harbor, where I enrolled in his political science course in 1969, and we reconnected decades later through email after he read one of my columns. That’s when I first learned about his wartime experiences, which can be heard in an audio interview he gave in 2005 to Robin Williams as part of the Veterans History Project. (A Google search of his name and the Veterans History Project will take you to the interview.)

In light of Roger’s story, another deserving honoree would have been his late cousin, Freddie Gonzalez (with two z’s), who died in 2002 at 72. Gonzalez, like Roger, was a native San Pedran who grew up in the same La Rambla neighborhood. He was a year older than his cousin and joined the Marine Corps Reserves soon after graduating from San Pedro High. He urged Roger to join up after he graduated.

When the Korean War broke out, they were both called up and remained together as members of the 7th Marines’ Fox Company. The company’s heroic role in the legendary battle of the Chosin Reservoir is told in The Last Stand of Fox Company: A True Story of Marines in Combat. The book details the unit’s nightmarish struggle from November 27 to December 4, 1950, in subzero temperatures while surrounded by thousands of Communist Chinese. This include Roger’s death on the first night from a sniper’s bullet and Freddie’s recurring role in the defense of Fox Hill.

Freddie did not survive unscathed. Like most of his foxhole buddies, he suffered severe frostbite to his feet, the affects of which hampered him the rest of his life. He returned to San Pedro, married his high school sweetheart, Delia, who still lives in San Pedro, and they raised seven children at First and Patton, not far from his parents’ home. Freddie eventually went to work for San Pedro Boat Works and retired after being injured.

Asked if his dad ever talked much about the war, oldest son Jimmy said, “He would give us bits and pieces over the years but didn’t talk about the actual war until I was in my 20s. He opened up about it. Most of the time he talked about it, he felt sorry for the Chinese; he saw how underfed and underarmed they were. He felt bad he had to kill a lot of those guys.

“He was always fairly stoic about it, just did his job and tried to stay alive like everybody else and keep his buddies alive. He was very proud of the service and proud of his country.”

Jimmy once told Ron Gonzales, another cousin of Roger and Freddie, “From the time I can remember, I don’t think I ever saw my dad cry. It could possibly be because of the things he did and saw for those seven days of his life. However, it did give him an appreciation of life and an extraordinary sense of humor. He was almost always in a good mood. He loved his kids, but also just about every kid he met. I never asked him, but I think Roger was never far from his thoughts and prayers.”

One More Book

Continuing the military theme, San Pedro native Michelle (Duval) Ule has a new book out, A Poppy in Remembrance, a WWI coming-of-age novel. The protagonist is a woman journalist who comes to know evangelists Oswald and Biddy Chambers, the subjects of Ule’s excellent biography that I reviewed here last year.

You can find more information about the book at Ule’s website (michelleule.com). The book is available at amazon.com.

Steve Marconi can be reached at spmarconi@yahoo.com.

Harbor View House, a Personal Goodbye

I worked at Harbor View House for ten years, supervising fund-raising, community relations, and movie shoots. There was never a dull moment with the many film crews with celebrities renting sections of the historic five-story building. However, the real everyday superstars at Harbor View House were the residents who suffered from various levels of mental illness. They were honest to a default, often funny, and taught me many lessons without even knowing it.

The staff, no matter what department, was like family to the residents. When I walked to the post office, a resident would often ask to join me. During our short walk, she would tell me about her life and details of her day. I still remember our conversations 15 years later. Harbor View House has over 100 employees working in housekeeping, maintenance, finance, nursing, and social services. The 287 residents who lived there often felt invisible and misunderstood to the world but always had a staff person that positively supported them at Harbor View House.

Staff was protective of the residents because many had a sense of childlike innocence. Dealing with their mental illness could be very agonizing for the residents. Counselors, doctors, and psychiatrists at Harbor View House provided on-going care and medication. When symptoms became unmanaged, staff would call for a PET (psychiatric evaluating team), and the resident would be hospitalized until stabilized, often having their medication adjusted.

Isolation and loneliness seemed to go hand and hand with having a mental illness. This was heightened by lost family connections or no remaining relatives. Residents could count on the staff for interaction and guidance. There were group activities, art therapy, animal-assisted therapy, and outings for interested residents. I was lucky to have worked with activities director extraordinaire, Luanne Wolfrum. She was like Ms. Frizzle from the cartoon The Magic School Bus. With her red hair, colorful and fashionable outfits, she created activities that brought out the best in people. She was so inviting to be around, welcoming everybody through the door of the activity room with her famous greeting, “Hi, honey.” Luanne saw the residents, not their diagnosis or smeared make-up, if that was the case. None of that mattered to her. When she wasn’t taking the residents on adventures to amusement parks and museums, she was throwing themed parties. She also wrote and directed plays with fellow staff member Pat Holmes for the residents to act in every year. The audience was packed with staff and Luanne’s family cheering for the residents as they performed on stage.

Some residents spent decades living at Harbor View House. This was their forever home, and the staff was their family. They were vulnerable, and at times, the target of exploitation and crime by the public. They were called names like “crazies” and “loonies,” and told to move to an island. Some residents were challenging for Harbor View House and the community, while many never bothered anybody. The discrimination was intense, and problems in San Pedro were often blamed on the residents even if they had nothing to do with it. Community members demanded that Harbor View House “lock them up” even though by law they were free to come and go as they wanted.

Every holiday, staff including Luanne and many others decorated the facility to create a cheerful environment with Christmas trees and lights. We gathered donated items to create usually the only gifts residents would receive (offseting the fact that many would have no visitors). By this Christmas, the majority of the residents will be moved out into other facilities. HealthView, Inc, the non-profit agency that owns Harbor View House, sold the building. It had an unrepairable elevator, and residents had to be moved out sooner than expected. Sadly, staff will likely be losing their jobs before the New Year.

The residents had challenging issues that were understandably hard on them. At times, it also affected their families, the community, and the staff who cared for them. Nobody asks to have a mental illness. I hope the future holds a smooth transition for the residents that relocated, employment for the staff who lost their jobs, and a world where people with mental illness are understood and cared for humanely.

A special thank you to all the staff who worked at Harbor View House since it opened in 1967, and the many lifelong friends I made working there.

R.I.P. Walter Taylor and Joanna Chow, your work at Harbor View House will never be forgotten.

Jennifer Marquez can be reached at jennifertmarquez@yahoo.com and @jenntmqz on Twitter and Instagram.

Homeless for the Holidays

I am not sure what has generated more passion over the years for local San Pedrans: the redevelopment of Ports O’ Call or the homeless crisis. One thing is true, our town has no issue about expressing its frustration with both.

Even when progress is finally being made, when nobody truly believed it would actually happen, like the redevelopment of Ports O’ Call, locals continue to vent their frustration about it in general. Regardless, in this particular case, progress is moving forward as the remaining demolition of Ports O’ Call will be completed by year’s end and the pathway for the waterfront promenade development will begin in 2019.

The homeless crisis, on the other hand, is next in line of issues we must face and resolve as a community. Each day, we see the homeless walking in certain parts of San Pedro, asking for a handout, defecating on our streets, and digging in the trash, while encampments are popping up in the most random locations. It used to be that these encampments were limited to certain locations, but now you can find encampments across San Pedro and Greater Los Angeles as a whole. This crisis is not going away.

This is not the first time San Pedro fought back regarding a homeless shelter or homeless housing. The first time was back in 1994 when the Navy housing on Western Avenue across from Green Hills, the former Ponte Vista Site, became available. Once Navy surplus housing becomes available, it can be offered up to support the homeless. Back then, the plan was to use this site to house 880 homeless but met resistance from the San Pedro community and was defeated.

Today, almost 25 years later, this location is still dirt.

The perception of homelessness is far from what our reality was when we were growing up, and the numbers have more than doubled. Breaking down homelessness in cause categories of substance abuses, mental illness, single parent families, veterans, high rents, lack of jobs, etc., only complicates the issues. In a lot of cases, many homeless are actually people who hold jobs and have children but have to live in their car because they cannot afford rent or a mortgage.

The A Bridge Home initiative is the latest of many approaches to help solve the homeless crisis. This program is to provide temporary shelter in all 15 Council Districts in the City of Los Angeles, and to bring necessary services to the homeless and help guide them into the next phase of getting off the streets. The location that has been approved is just off the freeway at Harbor Boulevard on Beacon Street. This is a far cry from the homeless shelter storage facility that was proposed on Pacific Ave. near Barton Hill Elementary School, and ten times less than the 880 homeless shelter proposed in 1994.

Like many, I am skeptical that this will work, but hopeful that it will. In the end, I believe the main issue here is trust. Do we trust that this will truly be temporary? Do we trust that it will enable the homeless to find their next step to recovery? Do we trust that this location will be safe, well maintained, and secure? Do we trust that this approach will not filter into the adjacent neighborhoods, waterfront development, and local schools? Do we trust the City of Los Angeles to enforce the law on vagrants who do not seek the homeless services that will be in this local area to help them?

There is much distrust to be shared, but as I see it, the times today in San Pedro are much different from the past. We have many who will hold the City and Council Office accountable to meet the intent of this local A Bridge Home location, to keep it clean, safe, and most importantly, to work. One thing we can no longer do is to turn a blind eye to this crisis. We are called by our faith, compassion, and community to do so, and to do nothing will not make this crisis heal.

Anthony Pirozzi is a Los Angeles Harbor Commissioner. He can be contacted at apirozzi@yahoo.com.

Santa Claus Is Coming to Town

December brings with it the spirit of giving. Here are ways to give back to our local community and a few people looking to do just that.

SANTA CLAUS IS COMING TO TOWN!
For the third year in a row, a few members of our community that love to serve San Pedro will be joining the big guy on his sleigh four nights this year. Santa’s Sleigh has been a huge success and embraced by many. There have been driveway parties, gender reveals and thousands of photos with the big guy. Show up to any of the locations below and come say hi to Santa and his helpers.

DECEMBER 4

  • Leland Elementary, 5:30 p.m- 7:30 p.m.
  • 26th and Patton, 7:45 p.m. – 9 p.m.

DECEMBER 6

  • Barton Hill Elementary, 5:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m.
  • First Thursday at 6th and Mesa, 7:45 p.m. – 9 p.m.

DECEMBER 7

  • Weymouth Corners’ Candy Cane Lane, 5 p.m. – 9 p.m.

DECEMBER 11

  • Taper Avenue Elementary, 5:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m.
  • Craig Place, 7:45 p.m. – 9 p.m.

Angel Gowns of South Bay will be continuing to meet on the third Saturday of the month, Dec 15. They will continue their ongoing collection of toiletries and (new) undergarments for local homeless teens.

They’re doing an extra collection in December for gift bags for homeless moms. Items needed include hair-brushes, lotion, nail polish, nail polish remover, nail clippers, slipper socks, hair accessories. Please direct any questions to KMFCreighton@Hotmail.com.

‘TIS THE SEASON WITH TOBERMAN

Breakfast with Santa – This annual event supports the community by providing toys for youth of all ages and breakfast with Santa. All activities are free. For more information, contact: (310) 832-1145, ext.106.

Adopt-A-Family – This program is an opportunity for individuals, teams, companies and organizations to reach out and lift up those in need, either through direct adoption or financial contribution. Your gift, large or small, makes a difference. For more information, contact: (310) 832-1145, ext. 162.

The MOMS Club of San Pedro is holding their annual Holiday Party Fundraiser December 9, from 1 p.m. – 4 p.m. located at DanceTech (114 N. Pacific Ave.). So many activities and fun for the whole family. Karaoke, slime station, nacho bar, crafts for adults and children, photos, dancing, bake sale, sensory station, Redondo Beach therapy dog, raffle for Disneyland tickets and other prizes. Santa will also be attending, so bring the family down for a photo.

George Palaziol is the founder of Serving San Pedro. He can be contacted at servingsanpedro@gmail.com.

Five Steps to Selling Your Home for the Highest Price

Our San Pedro housing market is shifting slowly from a seller’s to a buyer’s market. Just a short time ago, there was competition for almost every property that came to market. Buyers are now taking their time and being a bit choosier. In order to get the absolute highest price for your home, following a
few simple guidelines will help.

1. Hire a Local Realtor – Before you do anything, interview a few local agents. More and more, buyers are from out of the area and have no idea about the community. San Pedro has its intricacies and an agent who grew up here, lives here, and loves it here is the best person to convey the reasons to move here. Buyers appreciate having their questions answered with honesty and from someone with an intimate knowledge of the area. Buyers tend to feel comfortable with an agent who they know they’ll run into in the grocery store.

2. Set the Stage – 90% of the work happens after you hire a realtor and before the property actually comes to market. Preparation is everything. Doing a pre-market inspection can give the opportunity to complete any repairs needed, circumventing surprise negotiations from the buyer asking for a price reduction during escrow.

Repair, de-clutter, and remove personal items. The goal is to have buyers focus on your home and not on your family photos or medicine cabinet trying to figure out who you are and where they’ve seen you.

Unless you are a designer or have a friend with the knack to make everything gorgeous, bring in a professional for help. Everyone appreciates great design, but most homes are designed for function and not aesthetics. A designer knows the best colors to paint the walls, where to move furniture, and if new furniture needs to be brought in, as well as art placement, lighting, and flow. Design dictates how buyers will feel when they explore the property. If the buyers feel comfortable, relaxed, and just a bit envious, that will translate into dollar signs when they write their offer.

Great curb appeal creates anticipation to get inside. Landscaping, including lighting, colorful healthy plants, a fountain, even holiday decorations are a plus.

3. Pricing – Listing at the right price, slightly under market value, will get the most traction. Don’t get stuck chasing the market down or thinking a higher list price will translate into a higher sale price, it’s typically just the opposite.

4. Effective Marketing – Every listing is different and demands different choices and strategic thinking. Your agent should carefully craft marketing first by figuring out who the likely buyer is, then figuring out how the property can be best be displayed for them. Most buyers start shopping online, therefore importance of well-planned and well-executed photographs cannot be over estimated. Ad/MLS copy should be concise and not excessive. Highlight special features without using long lists of what the property has. The goal is to persuade the reader to visit the property. Professional copywriters are a real plus. Video also gets more traction online than photos, and it’s best when video is used to tell a story about the home and the neighborhood.

5. Showing – When you’ve got your home in tip-top shape and it’s ready to go on the market and be shown, be sure it looks like the photos. Control the temperature, add softly scented candles, and leave quiet music on. Turn all the lights on and open any window coverings. Leave a bowl of treats as a thank you for viewing as well as unique printed material buyers can take with them. Take pets out of the home.

Most importantly, ask your agent to show the property in person. Their job is to sell the home, point out special features, sell the neighborhood, and answer questions. They also can determine who is serious about the home when they meet buyers in person.

Stay With You

“We literally have grown up together these past ten years,” says Alexa (Iacono).

Though the couple did not attend San Pedro High School at the same time, Anthony, aka Tripple, and Alexa both were involved in Pirates athletics, with Tripple playing football, and Alexa the captain of the short flags team.

The couple met and officially started dating in 2008, when Tripple attended a barbeque that Alexa was hosting. Instrumental in getting the couple together was Tripple’s late uncle Ray, who was also Alexa’s coach. “I still remember the text from Ray,” says Alexa. “It read, ‘My nephew is home from college. Is it okay if he comes to the barbeque? He is bored.’” After that initial meeting, the pair’s first year and a half of dating was somewhat long distance, with Tripple attending and playing football at the University of La Verne, and Alexa attending California State Long Beach, while coaching San Pedro High School’s shields team, The Bannerettes.

“Alexa is selfless and will always put others before herself,” gushes Tripple. “I love her smile and kindness.” In addition to being a good cook, Alexa loves Tripple’s sense of humor. “He is just like my grandpa, Richard ‘Big Head’ Iacono,” says Alexa. “If he isn’t picking on you, he doesn’t like you.”

A perk of their relationship, according to Tripple, are Alexa’s home cooked meals and baking skills. “I remember the moment I won his heart with homemade blueberry muffins I made for him and his football roommates,” Alexa recalls. “Our friend Travis said, ‘Hey man, you gotta keep her. She makes us muffins,’ and Tripple’s face lit up as he took a bite.” Looks like Tripple took that advice to heart.

On March 12, 2017, friends and family celebrated Alexa’s birthday at the Hotel Maya in Long Beach. Unbeknownst to Alexa, Tripple had previously asked her father for his blessing, and during the birthday festivities, popped the question. Tripple recalls fondly, “I wasn’t nervous at all, I was mostly excited to profess my love to my future wife.”

Tripple and Alexa officially tied the knot on April 14, 2018, surrounded by 260 close friends and family.

The wedding date also holds special meaning to the couple. “That weekend would have been Tripple’s uncle Ray’s 35th birthday,” explains Alexa. “He introduced us, and there was no better way to thank him than to dedicate our wedding to him. It was his celebration, too.”

Their traditional ceremony was held at the beautiful Neighborhood Church in Palos Verdes Estates. The bride was escorted down the aisle by her father, Alex Iacono. “When Alexa was walking down the aisle, she was glowing and sparkling,” Tripple says sweetly. “I was calm for the first time in days and it was perfect.” The couple was also joined by mother of the bride Ann Iacono, parents of the groom Robert Tripple and Sharon Jones; grandmothers Sandy Iacono, Mary Lauro, and Betty Jones; maids of honor Sasha Geha and Adrienne Iacono, bridesmaids Angela Garcia, Antonette Jones, Charisma Jones, Jabrina Jones, Johana Geha DiBernardo, Mariejo Geha, and Shawntelle Philips Torres; best man Travis Arroyo; groomsmen Anthony Iacono, Adrian Torres, John Pesic, Josh Carrera, Juan Garcia, Marco Salazar, and Paul Luna; Flower girl Ariyah Jones; and ring bearer Mason Jones.

Before making their way to the reception, the bridal party made two surprising, local pit stops. First, the limo stopped for a celebratory sub at Busy Bee. “I was starving and it’s one of our favorite places to eat in San Pedro,” Alexa humorously recalls. Next, the limo visited the newlywed’s gym, All Fit. “It started out as a pose for photos, but I discovered I was strong enough to push Tripple on a sled,” explains Alexa. She adds, “The photos from both stops are pretty epic.”

Following the ceremony, guests were invited to celebrate at a reception at Dalmatian American Club in San Pedro. Cocktail hour featured a mariachi band, live piano, and plenty of fresh seafood and hors d’ouveres, with a reception afterwards in the main hall. “The room was totally transformed into the most beautiful setting ever seen,” says Tripple. The newlyweds hit the elegant white dance floor for their first dance to “Stay With You” by John Legend.

The party has many special treats for guests, including a hookah lounge, and plenty of yummy offerings, including a popcorn table and a large selection of Italian desserts. Each guest also received a lottery scratcher as a party favor. Tripple mentions, “We have yet to find out if anyone won!”

Immediately following the big day, Tripple and Alexa enjoyed a beautiful and adventurous honeymoon in Cancun.
As the couple continues to grow in their love, they also will be growing in family size. Tripple and Alexa are currently anticipating the arrival of a child, due in February. “We hope to continue to grow our family and raise our kids in San Pedro,” says Alexa. Tripple shares his hopes for their family, saying, “We are extremely blessed and want to teach our children the same morals and values we have been taught. We hope to grow old together gracefully and have a life filled with love and laughter.”

Tripple and Alexa currently reside in San Pedro. Tripple works for the Department of Public Safety at the University of Southern California. Alexa is a Lab Manager at Complete Women’s Care in Long Beach, and studying to become a Licensed Clinical Lab Scientist.

Leadership Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint

“Our problem is a lack of leaders.”

I’m hearing iterations of this sentiment frequently. Local and global organizations of every kind are asking, “How do we create a leadership pipeline?” In Tanzania, we are ready to open a campus that will be able to house over 50 girls and some of their babies who have survived sex trafficking. We think we could raise the money, buy or rent the right properties, and, unfortunately, we would have plenty of survivors who could fill the homes. So why did our expansion timeline have to be slowed way down? We struggle to identify leaders who have character and who would dare to lead.

I have compiled nine commandments (I know I need one more) of leader-ship for our elders, staff, council, and others who serve in leadership. This month, I will continue to comment
on a few of these commandments. You can read my previous columns, available at sanpedrotoday.com.

Leadership Commandment 6: We will remember the Sabbath day and keep it holy.

This one is stolen from God’s top ten list found in Exodus 20 and Deuteronomy 5. This commandment is a struggle for me. Why do I feel guilty breaking the other nine commandments, but I feel guilty keeping this one? Because my identity is wrapped up in what I produce or accomplish. I don’t think I’m alone. How many of us are more human doing than human being? Sabbath rest is a gracious invitation to be instead of to do.

A wise mentor told me early on that leadership is a marathon and not a sprint. On the outside I nodded agreement, but on the inside, I thought I was the exception. Fifteen years of serial Sabbath commandment-break-ing almost broke me. Burn out was within reach, and yet the numbness that is symptomatic of work addiction anesthetized me from the painful flame of burnout. The tender leaders and understanding congregation at Trinity gifted me and my family with a sabbatical. I remember being worried that I wasn’t feeling anymore. My compassion was mechanical. Had I lost my affections? At the beginning of my sabbatical I worshipped at different churches. Plainclothes, I was attempting to be anonymous toward the back of the sanctuary at the LifeTeen Mass at Holy Trinity on a Sunday night, and the epistle reading was from 2 Corinthians. I heard the precious Word of God and lost it. Kind of an ugly cry, if you know what I mean. Trying to get my stuff together, I thanked God that there was still a soft heart in there somewhere. Like the Grinch, my heart grew three sizes that day.

Sabbath does that. Sabbath recalibrates you to Godspeed. God conveys identity, affection, and a calling at Godspeed. Limits are gifts. A limitless sea is a destructive flood. A limitless fire burns instead of warms. Limitless intimacy is adultery. Limitless work is the enemy of sustainable leadership. Be still and know that I am God [and that you are not] (Psalm 46.10).

Leadership Commandment 7: There is a difference between hard work and busy.

This commandment is related to the previous one. There is not an effective leader that doesn’t work hard. Certain seasons are more relentless than others. Being busy is a substitute but not a synonym for hard work. Busy is unintentional, reactive, and soil for growing resentment without regard for season. A diagnostic question related to this commandment is: When people ask you how you are, how often do you say, “busy?” Why is this answer so common? Recently deceased pastor and author, Eugene Peterson wrote in his book Subversive Spirituality, “Busyness is the enemy of spirituality.” A farmer doesn’t sustain planting season or harvest all year long. They plan, work hard, plant, and wait. They fertilize, weed, consult, harvest, and then rest. Hard work is seasonal, but not sustainable. It is impossible to work hard enough or be busy enough to gain the favor of God or others.

Thankfully, we work from favor, not for favor. From God we already have all the favor we could ever need. We are not waiting for his approval, we already have it! (Psalm 30.5).
May your celebrations of this season be filled with the light and love of God and precious connections with one another! Merry Christmas!

Nathan Hoff is the Pastor at Trinity Lutheran Church in San Pedro. Follow his blog at trinitypastor.blogspot.com.

Essential Oils for Cold and Flu Season

When I first learned about essential oils, I was skeptical. I couldn’t understand how a few drops of oil from a plant could make any real difference in my health. I eventually decided to give them a try, slowly and reluctantly, and after some time experimenting, I’ve learned they can actually be quite effective. I was also happy to find that there’s scientific research to back up many of the related claims.

It turns out that essential oils can play a therapeutic role in healing, symptom relief, and immune support. So with cold and flu season upon us, it’s the perfect time to incorporate some of these natural wonders into your self-care routine:

(The following essential oils are generally safe for adult use. Please consult a pediatrician or qualified aromatherapist about which essential oils are safe for children. You can also seek out products specifically formulated for children.)

Eucalyptus Oil – Studies show that eucalyptus oil has antimicrobial effects against many bacteria, viruses, and fungi. It also has immune-stimulatory, anti-inflammatory, and analgesic benefits, making it effective in helping to treat respiratory illness, including colds, bronchitis, asthma, and sinusitis. In addition to its ability to naturally fight infection, eucalyptus oil can help offer effective relief for symptoms such as coughs, sore throats, and sinus congestion. Eucalyptus oil can be used via steam inhalation or applied topically (usually with a carrier oil). In particular, homemade vapor rubs have become a popular all-natural alternative to drugstore vapor rub products (which often contain camphor), using a combination of eucalyptus oil, peppermint oil, a carrier oil, and beeswax.

Oregano Oil – Oregano oil’s antiviral properties make it one of my favorite natural cold and flu remedies. It’s been found to be particularly effective for upper respiratory tract infections (in addition to other viruses). While oregano oil can be diffused aromatically or applied topically (pre-diluted with a carrier oil), I prefer to take oregano oil orally via capsules because I find the scent and taste to be strong (I like Designs for Health Oil of Oregano capsules). It’s especially effective when taking preventatively or at the first sign of a cold. Just be sure to always take it with a full plate of food, as it can cause stomach upset otherwise.

Frankincense Oil – With its anti-inflammatory and antimicrobial properties, frankincense has been shown to be more than just a popular ancient remedy. Studies show its effectiveness in treating inflammatory conditions, skin ailments, digestive distress, and more. In addition to its therapeutic benefits promoting relaxation, oral health, and memory function, frankincense is also touted as a potent immune booster, making it a favorite when fighting colds and flu. Plus, the scent is instantly calming to me. Frankincense can be diffused aromatically or applied topically with a carrier oil.

Peppermint Oil – Among its various benefits, peppermint has potent antimicrobial and antiviral properties, making it beneficial for fighting winter viruses. Meanwhile, the menthol in peppermint makes it ideal for relieving congestion, coughs, sore throats, and sinus headaches. Like eucalyptus, peppermint oil can be used via steam inhalation, diffused aromatically, or applied topically (usually with a carrier oil or as part of a homemade vapor rub).

Thieves Oil – Thieves oil is a blend of essential oils with potent antimicrobial properties, typically made of a combination of clove, cinnamon, eucalyptus, rosemary, and lemon oils. Studies show that essential oils, such as cinnamon and clove, contain antiviral, antibacterial, and anti-fungal properties that can help support immunity and fight against colds and flu. Thieves oil can be applied topically (pre-diluted with a carrier oil) or diffused aromatically. Bonus: the scent is wonderful.

Some things to remember:

  • To avoid skin irritation, dilute essential oils with a carrier oil (like jojoba or coconut oil) before applying topically.
  • Essential oils can have adverse effects, so be sure to check with your doctor first if you are pregnant or have a medical condition.
  • Do not ingest essential oils unless the label deems it is safe to do so. Certain oils are not safe for ingestion.
  • Always look for pure essential oils manufactured by trusted brands. Plant Therapy and doTerra are two reputable brands (although there are others).

For related references and studies, visit PubMed.gov.

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